Asking for and accepting help

Some carers say that they can’t ask for help because they think they are the only one who knows how to do the job properly. Others say they feel as though they have failed in some way if they can’t manage it all by themselves.

It’s important to remember:

• People only offer to help when they want to
• You don’t have to do everything yourself
• You can delegate specific jobs
• Asking for and accepting help is a sign of strength, meaning that you have realistically looked at your role as a carer, and have been proactive in managing your situation

Some carers say they’re not sure how to ask for help; and some carers can’t think of the jobs they need help with if they are asked!

A good place to start when asking for and accepting help is to know what has to be done and who could help you. Knowing what needs to be done, and how long it will take, could help you to accept help.

First, you need to admit that having some help will make a difference in your life. Then, write down everything that you do each day, how long it takes you, and who could help you. When someone offers to help, you will probably feel more ready to give them a task that will take something off your plate.